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We bring you the creme de la creme of dirty dating tips. When you like your strings unattached and when oats are being sown wildly - there are some simple guidelines that you should be advised to follow.
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We love our members. It’s our members that make Dirty Like Us the community that it is. Our members are like family and as such we want to protect you from any harm no matter how unlikely it may be.
To this end, we offer our tuppence worth on adult contact and fuck buddy safety. Please read and no matter how much fun you are having remember to stay safe!
Whether you decide to correspond online or meet members offline, please use sound judgment and be responsible for your conduct. In both the virtual and real worlds, common sense is your best defence.
1. Start slowly
Watch out for anyone who seems too good to be true. Begin by communicating solely via DirtyLikeUs.com, and look for strange behaviour or inconsistencies. Trust your instincts if the person at the other end doesn’t seem to be who or what he or she says they are. If anything makes you uncomfortable, don’t hesitate - walk away for your own safety and protection.
2. Guard your anonymity until you’re absolutely sure
Too many people give away their personal details before they get to know someone, yet careful, thoughtful decisions generally produce better results. Remember, it’s just the same as it is in the real world. You wouldn’t give your mobile number, address or email address to someone you just met in a bar, would you? The same thing applies here too. Just be careful.
And whilst you’re being careful, so are we. We are working every day, vetting the people who join DirtyLikeUs.com, to ensure that they are the genuine article and not scammers or tricksters. In fact, with our partners Global Personals, we have one of the best track records in the industry for eradicating scams and frauds from our site. So you’ve got a headstart with Dirty Like Us, but make sure you still take the right precautions.
3. Use caution and common sense
Take all the time you need to convince yourself that the person you are talking to is a trustworthy person and pay careful attention along the way. If you suspect someone is lying, you’re the best judge, so best leave them to it, and get on with finding someone else. Be responsible about romance or casual dates, just as you would in the real world. Don't become prematurely intimate with someone, even if only online. If you mutually decide to cross the point of no return, be smart and protect yourself.
4. Ask for a photo (or photos!)
A photo will give you a good idea of the person's appearance, which can be helpful in forming a "gut feeling". If possible, try to see several images of someone in various settings – and not just all naughty ones, either! If all you hear are excuses about why you can't see a photo, consider that he or she may have something to hide. Remember too, that 70% of the members on our site have posted a photo, so there’s not a problem when it comes to most people. (Adding a photo to your profile will also get you MUCH more interest)
5. Chat on the phone
A phone call can reveal a lot about a person's communication and social skills. Consider your security and don't reveal your personal phone number to a stranger. Try a mobile phone number instead or use a dialler code to prevent your phone number from being transmitted. Buying a second SIM card or a cheap mobile ONLY for use in your adult dating is a further way of guarding your personal details. Only give out your main phone number when you feel completely comfortable..
6. Meet when you’re ready
The beauty of meeting and getting to know each other online is that you can collect information gradually, later choosing whether to pursue the relationship in the offline world. You are never obliged to meet anyone, regardless of your level of intimacy. And even if you do decide to meet, you can always change your mind. It's possible that your decision to keep the relationship at the anonymous level is based on a hunch that you can't logically explain. Trust yourself and go with your instincts.
7. Watch for warning signs
Pay attention to displays of anger, intense frustration or attempts to pressure or control you. Acting in a passive-aggressive manner, making demeaning or disrespectful comments or any physically inappropriate behaviour are all warning signs. You should be concerned if your date exhibits any of the following behaviour without an acceptable explanation:
- Gives inconsistent information about age, interests, appearance, marital status, profession, employment, etc.
- Refuses to speak to you on the phone after establishing ongoing, adult intimacy or fails to give direct answers to direct questions.
- Appears significantly different in person from his or her online persona or never introduces you to friends, colleagues or family members.
8. Meet somewhere safe
When you choose to meet offline, always tell a friend where you are going and when you will return. Leave your date's name and telephone number with your friend. Never arrange for your date to pick you up at home. Provide your own transportation, meet in a public place at a time when there will be plenty of people around, and when the date is over, leave on your own. A familiar restaurant or café, at a time when a lot of other people will be present, is often a good choice. If you decide to move to another location, take your own car. When the timing is appropriate, thank your date for getting together and say goodbye.
9. Use extra caution in new places
If you are arriving from another part of the country, arrange your own transport and hotel room and don't disclose the name of your hotel. Call your date from the hotel or meet at an agreed location. If the location seems inappropriate or unsafe, go back to your hotel. Try to contact your date at that location or leave a message on their voice mail. Always make sure a friend or family member knows your plans and has your contact information. And if possible, carry a mobile phone and a personal alarm at all times.
10. Always have a ‘follow-on’ plan
Never do anything you feel unsure about. If you are in any way afraid of your date, use your best judgment to diffuse the situation and leave as quickly as possible. Excuse yourself long enough to call a friend for advice, ask someone else at the scene for help or slip out the back door and drive away. If you feel you're in danger, call the police; it's always better to be safe than sorry. Never worry or feel embarrassed about your behaviour; your safety is much more important than one person's opinion of you.
All common sense really, but we hope these tips give you some guidance for enjoying safe adult fun contact and fuck buddy dating -
The fun you'll have will more than make up for your caution!
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